Love and all that entails

2008-10-01T07:39:00.000-07:00

"Love" is the most famous 4-letter word and something we know the least about. The love a mother has for her newborn child is pure, love for our parents and pets. Now unconditional is something that is hard to come by. In relationships there are always conditions. Will you love me forever? Forever is mentioned alot especially at the beginning of a new relationship but even those fail and forever is becomes another word. There are those who expect love to mean that someone else must make them happy, feel safe and heal all our hurts and pain. That is quite a job for someone and then you are setting yourself up for sure failure. No one is responsible for all of that, not you or I. We are responsible for our own happiness. We must all work on ourselves before we can have a successful relationship with another. If we cannot feel the love for ourselves, then how on this earth can we love another. How can we recognize love, if we have never experienced it. True love comes from the heart and not the head. It is not something you sit and analyze. If you are sitting around analyzing, you are not loving or for that matter being loved. We are all entering into a new relationship with great expectations and really feel each time, that this is the real thing and no one, not friends or love ones can tell us anything different. How many times have you heard someone say "I have met my Soul mate" and have heard that time and time again. Each one may encompass some of the traits and when we get this feeling, we tend overlook the "red flags" that are waving fast and furiously before our very eyes. We decide that perhaps they never knew real love before, no one has ever really loved and we will show them what love is. Now that is a statement that really sets you up for failure. You cannot take on the job of healing all the hurts of someone's past. That is a job for each one of us individually to work out before we enter into a relationship. It is not fair to hav e such high demands placed on another or them on you. Older adults have a lifetime of disappointments, failures, betrayals and more. How are they to step into something without doing a mental comparison of past loves We are only human. My feelings on this are quite simple... Look at yourself and see your own beauty and strength, then draw into your own life, someone who also sees their own inner beauty and then take it one day at a time. Love is out there, but make sure it is real and you are ready.

Notes from my Universe

Blessings,

Judianne

Love and all the entails

Love and all that entails